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Divorce and Question Marks

Abp. Oscar. V. Cruz, DD

Views and Points

THERE are a good number of not only elementary but also concrete questions that come to mind when rather close allies of Malacañang especially in the Legislative Department as well as from the secular and/or ideological sectors of society, are earnestly and repeatedly batting for the institution of divorce in the Philippines. They use all known and possible media outlets to speak and promote divorce so that people by and large become used to it, be at ease with it and eventually like and affirm it as a fact of life. If and when divorce become a reality, then change the Phil. Constitution and revise the Family Code of the Philippines in order to accommodate divorce—contrary to their respective defining provision about the nature of marriage.

In substance, the reasons usually given are the following: One, it is only in the Philippines that there is no divorce when all other countries in the world have it long since. Two, it is time to be realistic and practical in addressing the matter of marriage and divorce as a realistic and practical pairing. Three, there are more marital separations in the country to thereby less and less marriages therein. Four, it is so expensive to obtain Civil Annulment such that only the rich can have it while cheap divorce could be readily obtained even by the poor. Five, there are solid grounds for divorce such as violence, infidelity, abandonment—in addition to the “No Fault Divorce” such as that observed in the USA.

Question 1: Is it really a shame—or an honest pride and honor—that Filipinos continue to hold on to marriage for life, to honor their marriage commitment in health or sickness, until death do them part?

Question 2: Is it truly difficult to understand that those who subscribe to marriage and divorce at the same time wallow in self-contradiction—if not also indulges in fakery and hypocrisy?

Question 3: Is it divorce that in effect would prevent marital separations and increase the number of those getting married—or would divorce instead actually inspire such conjugal divisions and underrate the fact of marriage?

Question 4: Is it then by a matter of what is cheap to have instead of what is right to do, simply an issue of what is convenient to undergo rather than what is proper to subscribe to?

Question 5: Is it all right then to intentionally commit violence, to purposely engage in infidelity or to stage an abandonment of one’s spouse in order to seek and obtain divorce?

More questions: How many marriages and divorces may one have?  One, three, five, eight? More?

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One Response to Divorce and Question Marks

  1. Isn’t it hypocrisy to pretend that all marriages work out? May mga kasal po na hindi nag work kasi nag bago na ang mga taong involved or my abuse na nangyari. Bakit po pinipilit ng simbahan na magsama ang mag asawang wala ng chance na mag work ang marriage? Paraang ang dating ay gusto nilang protektahan ang image ng kasal kahit na wala na itong substance?! Hindi po ba mas maganda na magsama ang mag asawa dahil gusto nila at hindi dahil sa pinipilit sila ng simbahan na ayusin ang hindi na maayos? Sa question 5 po kung may party ng willing mag commit ng violence or infidelity para makuha ng divorce di po ba kung ayaw ng asawa niya na tratuhin siya ng ganon dapat may option sila na iwanan na lang yung nag loko kaysa sa ina advocate ng church na mag tiis na lang ng mag tiis dahil sa deliberate na silang sinasaktan? Bakit gusto po ng simbahan na mag pretend na magiging ok ang lahat kaysa harapin ang katotohanan na may may kasal na hindi pang habang buhay?

    Nicholas Rush
    January 29, 2013 at 10:47 am

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